「權力」和「力量」在英文都叫 power,兩種意思視其前後文而定,但在「運用這 power(權力與力量)」的道理上是一樣的。因為,權力只是內在力量的外在展現之一。
從外表的形勢上也許有些人會認為「權力不是一種被給予,確實是可以被取得的東西」,但那只是一時的外表形勢,實質上它並非那樣。當我們放大視角、擴展意識,便會發覺神回答青少年問題的這篇,講得很有道理。
聽神談【權力與力量,如何成為有力量的人?】
目前你們的世界是由你們當中最有權力(powerful)的人創造的。並非由全部擁有權力的人,只是其中很少數的人所創造的。
一個很小比例的人數能控制大多數人的生活的理由,是因爲:大多數的人容許他們那樣做。
尼爾:當少數人擁有了所有的權力,他們又有什麽辦法能阻止它發生?你剛才自己也那樣說,說他們擁有權力。
權力是一種「被給予」的東西。它無法「被取得」。它是被賦予的 (Power is something that is given. It cannot be taken. It is given.) 。而它之所以被給予出去,是因爲那些把它賦予出去的人認爲自己是沒有力量的。諷刺的是,他們之所以沒有力量,是因爲他們已將自己的權力賦予掉了。事實上,他們擁有他們想要的所有權力。他們只是不想要有權力。
尼爾:是啊,青少年擁有他們想要的所有權力,他們只是不想要它。沒錯。
真的是這樣。思考一下看看:你父母對你所有的權力是你給予他們的權力。如果你不想給他們權力,他們就不會有。如果你不想做他們要你做的事,他們也就沒有辦法。
青少年把自己的權力給予父母的理由,是因爲他們的父母有一些青少年想要的東西。這可以是任何從愛到住的地方的東西,以及從食物、衣裳到你可以買你想要的東西的錢、一部你可以開的車,或不論什麼東西。
只要你能夠不再想要你父母所擁有的東西,或不再需要它,你父母便完全失去對你的控制。在這同時,你只是(有意識地)利用你的行爲(在這例子裡,利用你對你父母的服從)作爲得到你所要東西的方法。這是一種權力的行使(exercise of power)。
尼爾:我聽起來那像是在操縱。
如果你不誠實地做,它的確是操縱。如果你是公開地、誠實地做,每個人都瞭解你的作業程序,而你也瞭解其他人的,那它就不是。於是,你們便有了共同的議程、共同的目的,其中並沒有任何操縱。
所以這樣的話,結果會證明,你才是那個有力量(powerful)的人。
摘自《與神對話 青春版》第4章
Your world is presently being created by the most powerful people among you. For the most part, those are members of the older generation. And not all of them, only a tiny percentage of them.
The reason that a tiny percentage of the people control the lives of the largest number is because the larger number allows it to.
Neale: How can they stop it from happening, when the smaller number of people has all the power? You just said so yourself. They have the power.
Power is something that is given. It cannot be taken. It is given. And it is given away because those who give it away think that they are powerless. The irony is that they are powerless because they have given their power away. In truth, they have all the power they want. They simply don’t want it.
Neale : Yeah. Teenagers have all the power they want, they just don’t want it. Right.
It’s true. Think about it for a moment. The power that your parents have over you is power that you give them. If you did not want to give them power, they would have none. If you did not want to do what they told you to do, there is nothing they could do about it.
The reason that teenagers give their power to their parents is that their parents have something that teenagers want. This could be anything from love to a place to live, food, and clothes to money with which to buy what you want, a car for you to drive, or whatever.
As soon as you no longer want what your parents have, or no longer need it, your parents have lost complete control of you. In the meantime, you are simply using your behavior (in this case, your obedience to your parents) as a means of getting what you want. This is one exercise of power.
Neale: It sounds like manipulation to me.
It is, if it is done dishonestly. It is not, if it is done openly, honestly, with everyone understanding your agenda, and you understanding everyone else’s. Then you have a shared agenda, mutual goals, and there is nothing manipulative in it.
So, it turns out, it is you who are the powerful one.