人類愛情關係的失敗，是因為他們為了不正確的出發點，而進入關係。
關係的失敗最常發生在：當人們是為了不全然有助於關係存活的理由，而進入關係的情況。
聽神談【人類的「浪漫關係」為何經常失敗？】
尼爾：對於關係(relationships)我要學到什麼時候，才有辦法讓我在我的關係中順利運作？
你的詢問是有關「人類個別的浪漫關係」之類的，我了解這點。所以讓我明確並詳細地談論人類的愛情關係——這些不斷給你(尼爾)這麼多麻煩的事！
當人類的愛情關係失敗（關係永遠不會真正失敗，除了完全就人類的看法而言，它們只是沒有產生出你想要的東西），他們失敗，是因為他們為了不正確的出發點
(for the wrong reason 錯誤的原因)，而進入關係。
（當然，「錯誤」是個相對的說法，意思是用來對某「正確」的事——不論那是什麼——做對照衡量。用你們的語言來說，比較精確的說法是：關係的失敗——關係改變——最常發生在「當人們是為了不全然有益或有助於關係的存活的理由，而進入關係」的情況。）
大多數人進入關係時，著眼在他們能從關係中得到什麼，而非他們能給出什麼。(Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them.)
關係的目的是：(讓你得以去)決定你喜歡看到你自己的哪個部分「展現出來」，而非你可以捕獲和保有別人的某個部分。(The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you’d like to see“show up”, not what part of another you can capture and hold.)
關係——對所有人的人生而言——只會有一個目的：去決定和去成為「你真正是誰」(There can be only one purpose for relationships—and for all of life: to be and to decide Who You Really Are)。
摘自《與神對話 I》第8章
Neale: When will I learn enough about relationships to be able to have them go smoothly?
Now your inquiry has to do with individual human relationships of the romantic sort, and I understand that. So let Me address Myself specifically, and at length, to human love relationships—these things which continue to give you such trouble!
When human love relationships fail (relationships never truly fail, except in the strictly human sense that they did not produce what you want), they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason.
(“Wrong,” of course, is a relative term, meaning something measured against that which is “right”—whatever that is! It would be more accurate in your language to say “relationships fail—change—most often when they are entered into for reasons not wholly beneficial or conducive to their survival.”)
Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them.
The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you’d like to see “show up,” not what part of another you can capture and hold.
There can be only one purpose for relationships—and for all of life: to be and to decide Who You Really Are.
