「權力」和「力量」在英文都叫 power，兩種意思視其前後文而定，但在「運用這 power(權力與力量)」的道理上是一樣的。因為，權力只是內在力量的外在展現之一。
權力是一種「被給予」的東西。它無法「被取得」。它是被賦予的 (Power is something that is given. It cannot be taken. It is given.) 。而它之所以被給予出去，是因爲那些把它賦予出去的人認爲自己是沒有力量的。諷刺的是，他們之所以沒有力量，是因爲他們已將自己的權力賦予掉了。事實上，他們擁有他們想要的所有權力。他們只是不想要有權力。
只要你能夠不再想要你父母所擁有的東西，或不再需要它，你父母便完全失去對你的控制。在這同時，你只是（有意識地）利用你的行爲（在這例子裡，利用你對你父母的服從）作爲得到你所要東西的方法。這是一種權力的行使(exercise of power)。
Your world is presently being created by the most powerful people among you. For the most part, those are members of the older generation. And not all of them, only a tiny percentage of them.
The reason that a tiny percentage of the people control the lives of the largest number is because the larger number allows it to.
Neale: How can they stop it from happening, when the smaller number of people has all the power? You just said so yourself. They have the power.
Power is something that is given. It cannot be taken. It is given. And it is given away because those who give it away think that they are powerless. The irony is that they are powerless because they have given their power away. In truth, they have all the power they want. They simply don't want it.
Neale : Yeah. Teenagers have all the power they want, they just don't want it. Right.
It's true. Think about it for a moment. The power that your parents have over you is power that you give them. If you did not want to give them power, they would have none. If you did not want to do what they told you to do, there is nothing they could do about it.
The reason that teenagers give their power to their parents is that their parents have something that teenagers want. This could be anything from love to a place to live, food, and clothes to money with which to buy what you want, a car for you to drive, or whatever.
As soon as you no longer want what your parents have, or no longer need it, your parents have lost complete control of you. In the meantime, you are simply using your behavior (in this case, your obedience to your parents) as a means of getting what you want. This is one exercise of power.
Neale: It sounds like manipulation to me.
It is, if it is done dishonestly. It is not, if it is done openly, honestly, with everyone understanding your agenda, and you understanding everyone else's. Then you have a shared agenda, mutual goals, and there is nothing manipulative in it.
So, it turns out, it is you who are the powerful one.