人類常試圖想讓別人爲他們的選擇和他們的經驗負責。自由是了解到，是你在做那些選擇，是你在創造那經驗。 (Freedom is understanding that you are making the choices and you are creating the experience.)
沒有人能「被脅迫」去做任何事。他們只是能覺得他們好像被脅迫。 (Nobody can be “coerced” to do anything. They can only feel as if they are.)
事實上，任何一個人所做的，都只是在「做選擇」。 (In truth, all anyone is ever doing is making choices.)
從來沒有「你沒有選擇」的時候 (There is never times when you have no choice.)。那是我正在告訴你們的。如果你要做一件並非你父母的選擇的決定，你可能必須面對特定的結果，但那並不表示你「沒有選擇」。
你的選擇永遠反映著你的欲望和你的價值(Your choices always reflect your desires and your values.)。這點永遠是真的。你的選擇展現著所有你對於「你想要什麽」以及「你是誰」的想法。那是毫無疑問的。然而，你的選擇並沒有宣布你沒有任何自由，却正好相反。
永遠記住這點：每個行為都是一種「自我定義」的行為。 (Every act is an act of self-definition.)
有些父母遺棄了他們的孩子，而沒有扶養他們長大。那些父母並沒有「因爲他們必須」(“because they have to”) ，而扶養他們的孩子。你的父母並沒有「因爲他們必須」而扶養你。在你了解這點的那一刹那，你會以不同的眼光看你父母。
我再說一次，因爲這是一個你可讓自己進入之「充滿內在力量」的清晰境地(a very empowering place of clarity)。一旦你進入這境地，一旦你理解這點，每件事都隨之改變——包括你如何體驗你自己及你人生中的每一個人。
永遠記住這點：沒有人做任何事是他們自己不想去做的。 (Nobody does anything they don't want to do.)
Human beings often seek to make other people responsible for their choices and their experience.
Freedom is understanding that you are making the choices and you are creating the experience.
In other words, you are doing what you are doing in order to get something out of it.
Nobody can be “coerced” to do anything. They can only feel as if they are.
In truth, all anyone is ever doing is making choices.
Neale: But there are times when you have no choice!
There are never times when you have no choice. That's what I'm telling you. If you make the choice to do something that is not your parents' choice, you may have to face particular consequences, but that does not mean you had no choice.
Your choices always reflect your desires and your values. That is always true. Your choices reveal all of your ideas about what you want and who you are. There's no question about that. Yet your choices do not announce that you don't have any freedom, but exactly the opposite.
Remember this always: Every act is an act of self-definition.
For every example you can give me of some- one who has “had to” do something, I can find someone who has done it the opposite way.
There are parents who have deserted their children, rather than raising them. They are not raising their children “because they have to.” Your parents are not raising you “because they have to.” The moment you understand this you will see your parents in a different light.
There are children who have run away from their parents, rather than obey them. They are not obeying their parents “because they have to.”
You are not obeying your parents because you have to. The moment you understand this you will see your life in a new light.
There are people who have chosen death, rather than a certain kind of life. They are not doing what they are doing “because they have to.”
Neale: We've had this exchange earlier. You've said this before.
I am saying it again because this is a very empowering place of clarity at which to arrive. Once you arrive at this place, once you understand this, everything changes—including how you experience yourself and everyone else in your life.
Remember this always: Nobody does anything they don't want to do.