聽神談【關於人類的自然情緒:「憤怒」】
憤怒(Anger)是一種自然的情緒。它是個讓你可以用來說「不,謝了」的工具。它不必是冒犯性的,它也從來都不必有傷人之意。
如果孩子們被允許表達出他們的憤怒,他們長大後對於憤怒就有一種健康的態度,也因此通常能夠快速地度過他們憤怒的時刻。
那些被教導而覺得「生氣是不可以的,表達出來是個錯誤的行為,甚至根本不應該被表達出來」的孩子們,長大後會很難適當地處理他們的憤怒情緒。
當憤怒持續地被壓抑,會變成暴怒、狂怒(rage),一種非常不自然的情緒。
人們會因暴怒或狂怒而殺人。而引發戰爭,而毀城滅國。
摘自《與神對話III》第1章
Anger is a natural emotion. It is the tool you have which allows you to say, “No, thank you.” It does not have to be abusive, and it never has to be damaging to another.
When children are allowed to express their anger, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their anger very quickly.
Children who are made to feel that their anger is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their anger as adults.
Anger that is continually repressed becomes rage, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of rage. Wars have started, nations have fallen.