(You cannot be a little pregnant. You also cannot be a little free. You either are free or you are not.)
要嘛你自由，或要嘛你不自由。(Either you are free or you are not.)
在新靈性的日子裡，人類將了解，他們在關係裡永遠有完全的自由，沒有人能將它拿走，因為那即「他們是誰」，而每個想怪罪別人削減一個人的自由的企圖，只不過是個「遺忘的行為」(every attempt to blame someone else for curtailing one’s freedom is simply an act of forgetfulness)。
所有的選擇都有後果。然而，後果並非懲罰，它們是結果(Outcomes are not punishments, they are results.)。
關係是個讓自由得以完美表現的情境場(Relationship is the perfect expression of freedom.)。當關係的共同創造者遺忘了這點，而選擇將他們自己認定為「受害者」角色的時候，就是進入不快樂和悲慘之際。
Freedom is not something that can be partial. It is like pregnancy. You cannot be a little pregnant. You also cannot be a little free. You either are free or you are not.
Neale: Free to do anything?
Either you are free or you are not.
Neale: But even you have not given us that kind of freedom.
Oh, but I have.
Neale: Yes, but you punish us if we use it.
No, I do not.
Neale: Well, spouses do.
Do humans believe this?
Neale: Believe it? They experience it.
Then humans are not experiencing freedom in their relationships?
Neale: Not many.
They all are.
Neale: I don't think so. Not when they get punished by someone leaving them, or making life miserable for them. Not when they receive this punishment because they enjoy golf, or are caught up in their work, or don't pay the other enough attention, or, God forbid, experience a moment of love expressed sexually with someone else.
In the days of the New Spirituality humans will understand that they al- ways have total freedom in relationships, that no one can ever take that away from them because it is Who They Are, and that every attempt to blame someone else for curtailing one’s freedom is simply an act of forgetfulness.
Relationships are based on total freedom. That is how they work.
Neale: So when a husband tells a wife he's going to be leaving if she doesn't pay him enough attention, that's freedom? The wife is supposed to feel free to be herself in the relationship?
Of course. If the husband told her that he wants a certain amount of attention in the relationship or he's leaving, and the wife does not give him that amount of attention, she's made a free choice.
Neale: But she gets punished for that choice.
All choices have outcomes. Yet outcomes are not punishments, they are results.
Both partners in a relationship have the freedom to state their preferences. These announcements are statements of Who You Are. You partner does not have to agree with Who You Are, your partner merely has to notice it.
If who you are is a person who does not choose to live in a smoke-filled environment, for example, you have the freedom to announce that. Your spouse then has the freedom to smoke or not smoke in the home. You then have the freedom to remain in the home or to leave.
Neither party need take offense at the free-will choices of the other, or allow themselves to be “hurt” by them. To say that you have been “deeply hurt” by the free-will choice of another is to deny who both you and the other really are. It is an act of forgetfulness.
Relationship is the perfect expression of freedom. Where the unhappiness and the misery comes in is when the co-creators of the relationship forget this, and choose to cast themselves in the role of “victim.”